My Philosophy on Love

I believe that true love isn’t a fairy tale — it exists in real life, although it looks different than what you might see in a movie.

True love isn’t something you chase or something that magically happens to you when you find the “right person.” It’s something that you co-create with another person when you become ready for it.

You don’t need to change who you are to be loved. You just need to stop hiding the parts of you that are already lovable.

I specialize in working with highly sensitive, intuitive women because I know how overwhelming dating can be when you feel everything deeply. But your sensitivity is a strength — and when you use it with confidence and intention, it becomes your greatest gift in love.

My Background and Credentials

My coaching style blends practical, effective healing tools with creative and spiritual practices to allow for the deepest possible transformation. When it comes to matters of the heart, your logical brain and your intuition must align with one another.

My experience and credentials include:

• Trained and certified in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), Hypnosis, and Mental and Emotional Release® techniques

• Marriage & Family Therapy

• Art Therapy and creative healing methods

• Healing Rituals and Ceremonies

• Former dating coach for men — which gave me deep insight into how men think, feel, and approach dating

• Educated and personally experienced in non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, and other alternative relationship structures — offering a nonjudgmental space for clients to explore their own unique path to true love

My Story

My Journey to True Love (and Why I Do This Work)

I've always been a romantic at heart — maybe it’s because I was born on Valentine’s Day. Even as a little girl, before I could fully understand what the adults meant by words like soulmate and true love, I felt a deep longing for what they were talking about. I knew, even then, that love was something I craved at a deep level.

I had my first real crush at six years old. Before that, boys were just friends — someone you might jokingly call your "boyfriend." But this was different. I felt a deep, unexplainable yearning for this particular boy in my class. Of course, we were too young for anything to happen, but something had awakened in me. I felt romantic love and knew I wanted more of it! 

As I got older, those feelings only intensified. I imagined that once I was old enough to date, love would just happen — but it wasn’t that easy. My first boyfriend felt like a dream come true… until it quickly became complicated. We fought over small things. I felt emotional, overwhelmed, and constantly on edge. I loved deeply, but it all felt too intense — for me and for them.

In college, I watched my friends ease into healthy relationships, while I floundered in dating. I thought love would come naturally to me, but instead, it always seemed just out of reach.

Seeking Help, Finding Patterns

In my 20s, I discovered personal development — beginning, surprisingly, through The Game by Neil Strauss, a book about the pickup artist scene. While the book wasn’t exactly written for women, it taught me something profound: you can change your outcomes in dating. You can learn to relate differently. That gave me hope.

Eventually, I hired dating coaches. I started to see that my challenges weren’t just bad luck — I was reenacting old wounds. I chased men who didn’t want me, pushed away the ones who did, or got caught in emotionally unavailable relationships. The highs and lows were exhausting, and my intense emotions often left my partners overwhelmed or frustrated.

Through coaching, I started to connect the dots — how my romantic patterns were rooted in childhood trauma and a deep fear of not being lovable. I learned to stop choosing people who were unavailable. That was a breakthrough. My relationships became more stable and I began attracting men who were interested in a long term commitment … but there was still more healing to do.

Coaching Men, Learning Even More

Around this time, I became a dating coach myself — for men. With the support of my mentor, the late Sean Stephenson, I launched a business called Getting Inside a Woman to help men understand and attract women with authentic connection. What I didn’t expect was how much I would learn — especially about the male experience of dating and relationships with women. 

Many of my clients were highly sensitive men struggling with traditional advice that told them to “be alpha” and “take the lead.” These men wanted to be loved for who they were, and couldn’t wrap their heads around all these “dating rules” that didn’t feel quite right to them. I deeply related to that. It helped me see how hard dating can be for highly sensitive people, no matter their gender.

A Healing Crisis and an Awakening

Despite some dating progress, my personal relationship with the man I would eventually marry remained turbulent. Then, in 2012, I hit a wall. I began losing weight rapidly, developed food sensitivities, chronic pain, and panic attacks. Doctors found nothing wrong. But I began to uncover long-buried trauma — emotional abuse from my mother and stepmother, and a lingering sense of being unloved.

As I healed emotionally, my body became more sensitive, not less. I began to wonder: what if I wasn’t broken… just deeply sensitive? I discovered Dr. Elaine Aron’s work on Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), took her online quiz, and got a perfect score. Everything clicked. I realized I’d been comparing myself to women who were simply wired differently — and it was time to stop.

Redefining Love on My Terms

Around the same time, I began exploring polyamory with my then-husband. Dating more calm, emotionally attuned partners gave me a whole new standard for how peaceful and nourishing love could feel. I realized that the kind of connection I craved was possible — and I wanted it in my primary relationship too.

My marriage, to a man I loved deeply, left me feeling shut down and emotionally disconnected. We worked hard — multiple therapists, lots of growth, and even polyamory — but the truth was, we were fundamentally mismatched.

Eventually, my husband and I amicably decided to part ways after 10 years of marriage. In our open marriage, he had formed a deep, lasting relationship with another partner — and I saw that they were truly a better match for one another. We still love and support each other as a chosen family, and I’m grateful for the life we built together. But it was time for me to move on.

A Full Circle Love Story

For the first time in 20 years since I was an art major in college, I returned to my roots as an artist as a way to claim the parts of myself that had gotten lost in marriage, having kids, and home life. In addition to the florals and landscapes that I’ve always enjoyed painting, I began making artwork that was more romantic and metaphorical as a way to process and express what I felt I needed to heal in order to let in new love. 

Not long after, something unexpected happened: I reunited with an old college friend and ex-boyfriend. His name is Mike — and when we reconnected, it felt like no time had passed. We fell in love again, deeply and effortlessly. For the first time, I was in a relationship that felt like I had found what I’ve been looking for since I was a little girl. You can hear the full story in the 2-part podcast episode, “The Story of Mike & Liz,” on Seeking True Love.

Why I Do This Work

Today, I help sensitive, intuitive women stop settling and start creating the extraordinary love they long for. My approach blends practical dating tips, proven coaching tools for emotional healing, and creative expression — including art therapy — because I believe love and art come from the same place.

If you’re anything like I was, you may feel like love is just too much — too hard, too painful, or too far away. You don’t have to spend years fumbling through painful patterns. I’m here to tell you: with the right tools, mindset, and support, dating can get easier and you can find something that will work for you. 

Because your love story should be extraordinary. 💗